My Thoughts on Kim Kardashian's Robbery

Hiya guys, I've decided to bring you an extra post this week, you lucky things you [insert cheeky emoji grinning face]. I'm still posting my main post of the week tomorrow which is a review. But I really wanted to write about the whole Kim escapade and I didn't want to talk about it any later as it was just the other week. So I didn't want to be bringing it up a few weeks like, "Oh have you heard what happened? Here's what I think!" & then everyone is bored because everyone and their brother will have given an opinion on this. I don't want to turn the blog into tabloid & celebrity gossip stories, but I thought there were a few issues that could be talked about with this.

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Now, we ALL know who this very famous lady is. Her face, life & body are everywhere you turn. Even if you aren't fans of the family or watch their show, you probably still know who they are. Or have at least heard of them. I have to say, I'm not a fan of the family. Although, I'm not going to talk too much about that right now as I might actually talk about that in another post. She managed to go from a c/d list celebrity to being right at the top and being an A++. So love or hate her, she is an amazing businesswoman who's managed to create a career out of being someone who's just known. For a few years now, she has been making her way to the Paris shows for fashion week as she's friends (and quite possibly a client) of many well know designers within the industry. Even before she got to Paris, we all knew that she was going to be there.

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Many people have been disgustingly horrible about the whole situation, saying that she deserved it or she shouldn't have been on social media. But let's just take it back to the basics for a moment. We know she's a mother, as we've seen her children. We know that she's a sister, who cares and loves her sisters just like anyone else. We know she's' a wife and daughter. She has a job, which unlike a lot of us is in the spotlight. She is still a person, who feels and I'm sure in that moment as the robbery was taking place, I bet all she could think about was her life & children. Which is what would happen to at least, 99.9% of us. No one deserves to have their privacy interrupted and to feel like they will have to look over their shoulder constantly. In a way, I can totally relate. A year or so ago, I woke up to two strangers in my home stealing my items. Luckily, not to this extent. But it was a very surreal feeling, knowing someone was in my home while I was asleep. Taking my stuff. But to actually have a gun pointed at you, to have them physically touch you and make sure you are restrained? I don't think I could wish that on anyone or think that they deserve it. Neither should you. To wish bad on someone makes you worse, at least as bad as the person you hate. Especially if they aren't directly hurting anyone.

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I agree in the sense that, she shouldn't have been posting her exact location or telling people that she was alone (I read that she was doing this, feel free to tell me I'm wrong!). Unfortunately, with fame, you will always be a target for these types of ordeals. I'm in no way saying that we should all just accept it & think that it's fine. As it totally isn't. Fame wouldn't have helped, doesn't mean it should be expected. That's why I mentioned earlier that we all knew she would be there. They would've had weeks if not months to plan what they were going to do. Which also leads me onto one of my first thoughts when this happened, where were her bodyguards when this was happening? Someone like that should know that they need security. There are plenty of desperate people out there and some really are willing to take the risks. Turns out that he as actually with her sisters, leaving her with no one... Plus, why did she only have just one bodyguard? If I was someone with her stature & money I would be making sure I had an eye in every direction around me...

I don't want you to think I'm "hating" on her or thinking that this should have been expected and should have happened. I'm just trying to explain what I feel and think about the situation, as well as afterwards about the reaction. I just feel, with fame you do pay that price of privacy & safety sometimes. So you need to make sure you look after yourself. I honestly believe she didn't think anyone would ever be bold enough to actually do that to her. But people really are, as I said people are desperate. I think she made a mistake of not having more bodyguards and being super open on social media, but does that mean she should pay the price for it? Of course not.

Please let me know your thoughts & feelings on this in the comments below! Just don't be a bully please?

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Are The Oscars Too White?

So by now, I'm assuming you have all heard about the controversy surrounding this year's Oscar Nominations. Every year the same issues seem to arise, so why haven't we seen change? After researching the topic even just a little, I didn't have to do much digging, it seems this topic is brought up almost every year. Some have argued, maybe none of the coloured actors deserved to be nominated. Which I agree, maybe they didn't. But, really can we always believe that's the case? Especially when It happens all the time and when there are coloured nominations the number of white vs coloured nominees is always always outnumbered. In all honesty, in today's society & year I think it's hugely embarrassing, as a species we are meant to be the most intellectual and advanced. Yet we still act as if we are from the stone ages, or at least not past the last century or so. That we are still having these issues of diversity. We shouldn't have to talk about it. It should even need to be brought up, it's shocking that we still do. Surely after it being brought up time after time that we would start to see some change by now?  

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All of the above were nominees for last years Oscars.

I think what's also important to point out is the lack of Gay nominees as well. Ian McKellan has been nominated twice for an Oscar and both times he planned his speech beginning with him being gay. And both times he put the speech back in his pocket. Yes, there have been gay nominees that have won, but not many and none that were open about their sexuality at the time of their wins. So again, another recurring theme to these award shows. I caught a video that had been trending on the side of facebook, unfortunately for the life of me I can't remember who was in the video & which one it was sorry! But the guy said, he feels it's up to the people who are involved with the films before they get to the award shows. Casting directors need to include more nationalities in their films, different directors. Saying that voting members are just dealing with what they are being given.

Although I don't entirely agree with what he has says, I do feel we need a broader diversity in our films and the stories we decided to put out there in films. So maybe, just maybe this would help. I don't think it's as simple as just choosing different actors. The film "Creed" was written and directed by a black man, as well as starring a lead black actor. The only nominee for this film, was a white man. I think throughout the entire industry there needs to be change. Ian Mckellan also said brilliantly;

"The voting members of the Academy are predominantly white, predominantly male, and predominantly middle aged and old, they're not representative. If you feel excluded because you're black or Hispanic or a woman or gay, you're going to look at that institution and say it doesn't represent me. No, it doesn't, that's a fact. But do you expect it to represent you? It's just a middle aged, white male organisation. The easy way would be to say, don't worry about it, forget about Oscars, don't go, don't put yourself up for it. But in a land where there are no knighthoods, winning an Oscar is a confirmation that you are what you are."

I think we all, already know how judgemental, or how much the Oscars are biased. I only need to mention our beloved Leornado DiCaprio. For the past few years he has given outstanding performances in films, yet, every time he is nominated he receives nothing. So as Ian McKellen says, they are a bunch of middle aged men who like that they like and nothing is going to change that. Unless we do what we can and keep calling them out. If no one says nothing, nothing changes so we need to be as proactive as we can to make changes. Not just in the film & entertainment industry, but across the board for a lot of things. I think this year though, a lot of prominent people in society have stood up and said something. Which has prompted the Academy President to respond. She has said that they will now be reviewing their current member board and make sure to include the much needed diversity.

So who knows, maybe old Leonardo DiCaprio will get his Oscar after all?

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Tyga & Molly O'Malia

So by now, I'm assuming most of you have already heard about this story through various media outlets. I thought it would be a great topic to start this section of the blog off with, and its a very current topic right now! As well as bringing up quite a few issues. I also want to say, I encourage all of you to comment your opinions down below and get involved as mush as possible as this is what I want Tuesdays to be all about. Talking with each other.

Firstly, I want to start off with some of the headlines that have come out about this story.

"Model Molly O'Malia, 14, Accuses Kylie Jenner's Boyfriend Tyga Of Sending Her "Uncomfortable" Messages"-People

Underage teen sobs next to her lawyer Gloria Allred as she claims she received 'uncomfortable texts' from Tyga during his relationship with Kylie Jenner-Daily Mail

Now, since all of this has come out, there has been some leaked photos of the actual texts. I'm not going to post any here, just incase due to copyright! Don't want to get caught up in all that... The texts show her clearly lying about her age, but the texts do also show him asking her to "facetime" him. I agree, its totally ok for her to feel intimidated by him asking her to do this. But, to then go onto lie about your age? Clearly stating you are much older than you are? Looks like trouble! It doesn't seem like she is feeling that uncomfortable about their communications. Since she lied about her age AFTER he has asked her to facetime him.

I think the media has been really unfair of the portrayal of all of this. Clearly, a lot of people are on Molly O'Malias side, straight away. I personally feel this is because shes a young girl. So, naturally a sweet looking girl would never be so manipulative would they? But alas, in the revealing of the texts we see her lying about the very thing, the newspapers are shouting about. Her age. So who is really in the wrong here? And is really fair to be judging men, just because of their sex? That they must be the misleading monster. Especially when us females hate it being done to them. For me, feminism is very important. Feminism for me, is also about choice & fairness regardless what your sex is. So, what I mean by that is, you should be able to choose whatever you want to do regardless of your sex, as well as being treated fair regardless of your sex.

I think whats also important for us all to remember is, theres always three sides to a story. One side, the other side & the truth.

I feel the media have immediately jumped to Mollys side because of her age and sex, before really finding out whats happened. If the media knew about the texts before they realize the articles, then thats even worse! It just shows how much mainstream media really loves to stir things and how you really can't believe everything you see in the news. I think its also important to see how unfair and sexist our society is still. Still jumping to outdated normalities.

I feel bad for both of them. Molly, because alot of people are judging her because she lied about her age. Tyga, because people are also judging him for being a bit of a creep. I think everyone needs to remember that there is good and bad in everyone, so sometimes it shows! Maybe, just maybe, they are both a little in the wrong here? But they've also both become victims of their actions by themselves and towards each other. So, naturally, everyone must pick a side... Obviously.

So what are your opinion on this story? Do you define yourself as feminist, if so, how?